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Monday, June 09, 2014

"Sukhjin" Needs To Get laid More. And Laid Better. Here's How:

 Photos: Me in better days (L) you can already see damage starting on my hands. On the (r) how I picture a cowardly poster w/ alias  "Sukhjin"-- whose confidence comes from beer- he's a drunken frat boy wanting to show how he can make a dive from the roof into the pool drunk, then lands flat on his face on the diving board followed by Tosh2.0. That's what I close my eyes and see.

Oh I had been so good refraining from commenting on blogs until Konstantinos' post reminded me of a piece I had just read about investigative journalism in Rolling Stone and its author's untimely death. The Last Prisoner of War seemed so timely. I wondered whom will be the last prisoner of domain fantasy thinking?

It was a joke really, a sign that we are all taking these Gs a little seriously. For the rest of the world couldn't care or even know who has how many or what a zone file says. And should Chevron or any multinational step up to the plate and buy one, they certainly won't do so because of anything they read in a domain blog.

In comes the cowardly bully hiding behind an alias 
"Sukhjin" that says, nothing, means  nothing, leads nowhere and signifies no demonstrated expertise or accomplishments to be an expert on anything given this topic. He wants to hurt me, to humiliate me.

And so on a OnlineDomain thread sure to live in perpetuity and be judged for decades to comes (writing off a company that's barely out of the gate nor even known about by its intended target) the character named "Sukhjin" posts:

"Two words for you. You are one of Those dumb ass individual who don’t make sense. Dude get real and stop posting bullshit headlines which don’t even make sense."

"Your opinions don’t even make sense. I can tell you , you are one of those confused individual who seems to be experiencing hallucination all the time."

First my blog is a news feed compilation of other people's headlines including the excerpt I quote about investigative journalism that camera from Rolling Stone, So if you have a problems with those you need to speak with them. You probably criticize my blog without reading it, just based on the teaser that appears on That's unfortunate because domaining dotCOM code doesn't allow the semi-colon character and substitutes a comma, so what are supposed to be preview headlines from the post all end up as one run on sentence separated by commas.

On Facebook thread about the post on Andrew Wright's thread, we were introduced to one Katrina Kross. Katrina had a similar experience that I did in the beginning, led down the garden path of blog hype to bankruptcy trying to score the next DN Journal reported million dollar sales.

She wrote:  "Well if I was in the industry I would shut up and put up. And promote. Having had a husband who did nothing but spend my money on useless domain names I feel a little different. The age of turning a buck in domain names is well and truly over. Think picking over recyclable waste in China. If it were me, I would be looking at putting my skills, intelligence, knowledge and expertise into something that gave something back. X"

In my follow-up comment to  "Sukhjin", sticking my neck deeper in the water, I suggested that once I learned about the scam, I withdrew from domains almost entirely taking the $150K I had banked from PPC (in the good days) on just ONE domain into stocks like Apple. 

Since 2007 (not 2004 as he suggested). when I tried to share with the world there are other investments to worry about than domains, when Apple was $75 and later in 2012 when Alcatel (which powers 4G) feel to just 50 cents. "Sukhjin" says it's 2014 get over it. Well I say get over your domain fairy tale and put your energy and attention into something else, anything else that gives you money in the pocket!

Apple has gone up 600% and just had a seven to one split. Alcatel row ego $5 and slipped back to $4. The result is I have $1.2 million dollars in the bank that started from domaining but really grew when I had the good sense to realize domaining is not the center of the universe. All it took was five years. When I see people still chasing rainbows and fairy tales and arguing about extensions just like 2001, it saddens me. I'd write more, I'd cut and paste less but a nervous disorder has pretty much taken most of what my hands can give.
So I make some typos. I omit things, Cut and paste. Do you blame me?
If you don't have your health, you have nothing. No one who knows me personally would ever use the word dumb though they would have many other hurtful ways to describe me as stubborn and hotheaded. I don't think Andrew Wright would call me dumb. His company made as much as I did off of my one domain which was 90X the return of the average in that company's portfolio.

Maybe I, like " Sukhjin", just needs more and better sex. So I give you the Ted Talk on the subject: TED Tuesday: The Secret To A Long-Term Relationship

==> Can You Feel Love and Lust for the Same Person

As a couple's therapist with clients from around the world, I have long probed the intricacies of desire in modern love. While much has changed in my 30 years of practice, one line has endured, "We love each other very much, but we have no sex."
The story of sex in committed modern couples often tells of dwindling desire with a long list of sexual alibis. "We're too busy, too tired, too stressed." Does this really explain the death of Eros?

Allow me to ask you a different set of questions I attempt to address in my to help tease out the nature of erotic desire and its accompanying conundrums:


- Why does good sex so often fade, even in couples who continue to love each other as much as ever?
- Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex?
- Can we want what we already have?
- Why does the transition to parenthood so often deliver a fatal erotic blow to the couple?
- And why is the forbidden so erotic?
- When you love, how do you feel, and when you desire, how is it different?

Love and desire, they relate but they also conflict. And herein lies the mystery of eroticism. How we straddle our drive for connection and closeness with our quest for separateness and freedom is at the core of reconciling intimacy and sexuality, otherwise called the domestic and the erotic. This was the central theme of my book Mating In Captivity.

Let's play a little word game. If you had to give a verb that accompanies love, what would it be? And what would your verb be for desire? I'll drop a hint: what nurtures love is sometimes the very thing that stifles desire.

Love and desire, they relate but they also conflict. And herein lies the mystery of eroticism. -- Esther Perel
Another lead question: When do you find yourself most drawn to your partner, and not just sexually, but in the broader sense? You will notice that one elemental aspect of love is consistently absent in the realm of desire.

We are born sensuous. And we become erotic. It is an intelligence that we cultivate and that stretches far beyond sex education. Erotic intelligence celebrates ritual and play, the power of imagination, and our infinite fascination with what is hidden, illicit and suggestive. In my article "In Search of Erotic Intelligence," I suggest that to play a bit more with the ambiguity that's inherent to communication. Eroticism can draw its powerful pleasure from fascination with the hidden, the mysterious, and the suggestive. In my talk you will see why this matters and how I draw the contrast between sexuality and eroticism.

Yet, a passionate marriage? Now there's a contradiction in terms. Passion has always existed, but mostly outside the conjugal bed. This is the first time in history that sexuality in long-term relationships is rooted in desire, i.e., just because we want it, and no longer a female marital duty and a device for yielding up multiple farm hands. (Here I'm talking about the West.)

Today we want our partner to give us both stability and passion, a sense of belonging and a respect for our individuality. We're asking one person to give us what once an entire community provided. It's a tall order for a party of two. It's not that we're more insecure today, but we bring all of our security needs to one partner. Suffice it to say that couples crumble under the weight of expectations. Fire needs air, and many modern couples struggle with mating in captivity. So what are they to do to sustain the libidinal charge?
In the age of transparency, I find that one of the toughest nuts for couples to crack is how to introduce novelty in the enduring and mystery into the familiar. Lots more to read on my website and my blog.

At the heart of sustaining desire lies a challenge. It demands that we learn to reconcile our fundamental need for safety and security with our equally strong need for adventure and novelty. We want our relationships to be both, the anchor and the waves. Think of this as a paradox to manage, not a problem to solve.

The poetics of sex draw upon imagination, playfulness, curiosity, focus, and presence to name just a few of the key ingredients.

How is your erotic IQ? What needs attention, renewal, unlocking, healing? Mark your first thought, and your next action.

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